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Assisted Living Mysteries

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Dear Miracle Workers,

Assisted living is full of mysteries. My mom is 94 and in assisted living. The thing they don’t tell you when you are taking the nice tour, or after you’ve paid your deposit and are going through orientation, is that your loved one’s “things” are going to disappear. This is especially true with clothes, towels, sheets – you name it. You can go through a whole Sharpie putting names and initials on things and they will still disappear. It’s a mystery.

Some people go into assisted living because they need physical assistance. But some, like my mom, are in various stages of dementia and a lot of her neighbors are like that, too. So, who knows? Things might be “borrowed,” or “found,” or “collected.” Some go into the laundry room never to be seen again. And anything new or of value might walk out the door with a temporary worker. Mom’s wedding ring disappeared that way – I think.

I pretty much take this all in stride – thanks to ACIM. “All things are lessons God would have me learn.” (OrEd.WkBk.193) I can only feel lack or loss, or even annoyance, if I feel I have been deprived. And I can only feel deprived if I have forgotten who I am and what this world is. My attachment to concepts such as order, future needs, history, the past, possessions, and judgments of right and wrong, will become powerful anchors to the illusion, if I let them. Instead, “... there is a way to look on everything that lets it be to you another step to Him and to salvation of the world." (OrEd.WkBk.193.17) So now I try to be like Byron Katie. Wedding ring missing? I look forward to that happening again! – so I can continue to learn.

(originally appeared in Miracles Weekly #326, Mar. 3 2022)

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Deb Canja

Deb Canja is a spiritual teacher dedicated to removing the obstacles that prevent us from experiencing self-love and inner peace. She was ordained on Aug. 22, 2020, as the CMC's 122nd Minister. She serves on the CMC Board of Directors and teaches a class focused on the ACIM Text using the Circle of Atonement edition. Deb has spent years studying many spiritual masters and healers and knows that the key to realizing a life of joy, abundance and success is already within each of us. She helps others find their path to success and happiness with gentle guidance and a few simple strategies that build bridges to inner wisdom and connection to the truth of who they are.

Deb is also the founder and CEO of Bridges4Kids, a national, non-profit organization providing online information for parents and professionals seeking help for kids from birth through college. Prior to founding Bridges4Kids, she served as the Executive Director of Michigan’s Parent Training and Information Center where she used her legal background in civil rights to teach parents how to successfully advocate for children with special needs. 

At 15 she was led to the decision to become a lawyer dedicated to working within government to bring about positive change from the inside out. As a Michigan Assistant Attorney General, and later a Deputy General Counsel, she protected the public by regulating insurance and lending services, and by defending laws that protect consumers.

She also served as a volunteer, elected trustee of a large community college and championed programs to make education affordable and accessible for all.
A best-selling author, her first book was written with her mother Tess, about helping adults discover how to encourage a success mindset in young boys. Swim the Lake Before You Row the Boat describes how to awaken a boy’s success identity, unleash his confidence and give him the foundation for a great life. At the same time, it encourages parents, grandparents, teachers, coaches and mentors to lighten up on themselves, embrace do-overs, and focus their efforts where it really matters. She is also a contributor to two other best-selling books, The Success Code: Ordinary Habits/ Extraordinary Results, and Transforming Your Life, Vol. 3. 



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